My single sister demands we pay part of her vacation bill

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Dear Pay Dirt,

My sister is (unhappily) single and child-free with a well-paying job. I only bring this up because I am not sure if it contributes to her views on this issue. She was engaged 10 years ago but they broke up and she hasn’t had a long-term relationship since, much to her dismay. She sometimes speaks negatively about her friends who have gotten married or been in long-term relationships.

When my sister travels with our family or with friends she insists on splitting the cost of accommodations by the number of people, so if she gets a hotel room with a married couple she wants to split it three ways. Our family (my wife and I, both women; my widowed brother and his young son, our parents, and my sister) take at least two vacations together a year: a ski trip in the winter and a beach trip in the summer. We usually rent a condo for the ski and beach trips with enough rooms for each person/unit. My sister insists that we split the cost six ways for each adult. I think we should split it four ways because doing it her way means she pays half as much as the couples do. For a $3,000 condo split her way our parents and my wife and I will be spending $1,000 while she and my brother spend $500. If we split it four ways, then my parents, wife, and I will be spending $250 less and she’d be paying $250 more, which seems reasonable since we are all getting the same amount of space.

I could see her point more if she had to sleep on

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My husband hid my daughter’s passport so she couldn’t join her step-siblings on vacation

It can sometimes be tricky blending together two families with children, particularly when they’re at different stages in their development. One mum says she’s had issues with her husband of three years suggesting her teenage daughter doesn’t spend enough time with her younger step-siblings and it’s led to a very vindictive act.

“A family trip is what the family needs”

The woman explained in her post to Reddit that she’s been with her husband for three years now and there are issues between him and her 17-year-old daughter.

“She does her best to spend as much time with [her step-siblings] as she can,” she wrote in her post, “but she complains that her stepdad tells her to basically take on the role of a babysitter whenever she’s with her step-siblings.”

The woman said her husband denies this but insists the teen is just making excuses not to be around them.

“I figured that a family trip is what the family needs to get together and spend more time around each other,” she continued.

“My husband liked the idea but said that his kids are now ‘uncomfortable’ around my daughter because of her ‘attitude’ and suggested we let her stay home and have the house all to herself since that’s ‘what she always wanted.’”

The woman went ahead and booked and paid for a big holiday but the daughter suddenly could not find her passport. They turned the entire house upside down looking for it to no avail.

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The woman said her husband was using her daughter as free childcare for his children.
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“My husband said maybe it was a sign from God that we should let her stay home so the trip wouldn’t turn into a disaster,”

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